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I’d love to look back in six months—or a year—and say: I stayed consistent. I provided value. I built something that mattered—or at least made you laugh.

What does success look like?

To me, success starts internally, then emanates outward.

Achieving security, self-sufficiency, and self-reliance in your spiritual and emotional life is success. This is no easy feat. It takes a lifetime—and many, if not most of us, never get there.

If anyone is just starting their journey—whatever that may be—I invite you to look inward first. Reflect on your why. Reflect on the state of your inner kingdom or queendom. What is it that makes you want to go on this journey? What is it that drives you to sit down and write, read, or create on the days you do? In the moments of agony, in the moments of despair, what will keep you going?

To me, success starts here—within.

External success—however you define it, whether it’s money, women, clothes, cologne, or living abroad—means nothing if you don’t feel internally satisfied. If you define success through material things and you feel truly at peace, props to you. I can only speak from my own experience: no amount of money will solve internal turmoil.

Asking “why?” is difficult. It feels hard. Internal work is the hardest work to do—because it’s the most important work. We feel immense resistance to it, because our brains are wired to avoid this level of conflict. Your mind has put up barriers to keep you from asking these kinds of questions your whole life. Lesson: don’t always trust your brain.

How success looks externally will differ for everyone. For me, internal success is grounded in service. It’s grounded in discipline. Defining what that looks like for me, getting to a point of inner security, is a continuous process. But what I’m most proud of is the fact that I started.

And this process may lead you in a different direction than it has led me—that’s the beauty of our uniqueness, our idiosyncrasies.

Success to you will inevitably look different than success to me. What’s most important is that you acknowledge your inner kingdom, cultivate it, do the deep work, and ask yourself the hard questions—because it’s the most impactful, meaningful work we can do. For ourselves, and for those around us.